"We selected another candidate for the job."
"Your manuscript isn't what we're looking for at this time."
"I'm sorry but you don't qualify for those benefits."
"Unfortunately your loan application was denied."
"We're sorry but we chose another student to receive the scholarship."
Your ears are ringing with the painful sound of "sorry but..." responses that you've gathered over time. Words of rejection can fester if you don't know how to transform them into something positive.
You can choose to focus on the fact that you were rejected. You can put yourself down and feed yourself lies that say, "You're not good enough, old enough, pretty enough, smart enough, etc." But this does nothing but deepen the wounds and fill your heart and mind with discouragement.
The fact is: you ARE good enough...for the purpose God has for you. Some encouraging thoughts that help me deal with rejection are:
- Rejection will never hurt for as long as regret.
- Rejection is God's way of saying 'wrong direction.'
- Rejection is not someone wanting you out of their life but someone that God wanted out of your future.
Rejection can be the launching pad for the next big step in your career or education. If you don't attempt something, you may regret it later. You may miss opportunities. And you may miss a chance to learn something from the experience.
Look at rejection as taking a detour. You're following directions. You're reading the signs.
You're sure that you're going the right way. But then suddenly there's that big orange detour sign redirecting your path.
Getting upset about it and dwelling on that unexpected sign isn't going to get you to your destination any faster. The road crew redirecting you knows what's best. They know which way will be the safest and best way to get you where you need to go. The same is true when God redirects our paths.
He knows what's best for us. He knows what's needed in order for His will to be done. He knows what we need and when we need it. And He will give us what we need, not always what we want. Sometimes this takes place through rejection in various areas of our lives. Perhaps the following scripture will help.
Romans 11:1a - "Has God cast away His people? Certainly not!" It's important to remember that although people and circumstances bring us rejection, God does not reject those who follow Him.
Proverbs 3:6 - "In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths." God knows what's best for you and will direct you accordingly. Sometimes this means you'll encounter rejection in order for Him to send you the right way.
1 Samuel 15:23b - (Samuel speaking to Saul) "Because you have rejected the word of the Lord, He also has rejected you from being king." If we reject the Lord, He may withhold blessings from us and give them to those who love Him. We know how much it hurts when we are rejected by others. Imagine how much it grieves God when we reject Him!
Isaiah 53:3a - "He is despised and rejected by men, a Man of sorrows and acquainted with grief." Jesus (the Sin-Bearing Servant) understands the pain of rejection. Share your feelings with Him, and let Him comfort you and guide you in the way you should go.
If you are experiencing rejection, I hope this message brings you peace and encouragement.